1/11/2024 0 Comments Gender reveal memeBianca’s pronouns are she/her, but you might be surprised how many girls might wind up in suits if they were allowed to do whatever the hell they wanted. Whatever flavor we get, we’re happy with. I mean, we have rules – she has to have lights out at 9pm – but my child is welcomed for all of her personality. It wasn’t about gender or sexuality, but I know how it feels to be a teenager who’s not loved or accepted. My parents threw me out when I was 17 years old. This one girl told me she wanted to wear a suit to Easter and her mother said she couldn’t live in the house if she was going to dress like that. I get a lot of emails from transgender or non-binary teenagers who see themselves in Bianca. Let’s get you one.” That’s the photo that ended up going viral. What do you think about a suit?” We both looked at each other and she said, “Can girls wear suits?” I said, “Absolutely. The way that started is that it was time to get dressed up for our family Christmas pictures a few years ago and Bianca had been saying for a while that she didn’t want to wear dresses. She is the most confident 11-year-old you’ll ever meet. The middle one loves dolls so she has 100 dolls. So now there are even more fires than usual and the smoke is showing up in Oregon and San Francisco. Literally the worst choice you could ever make. The Karvunidis family portrait from 2018. There was a gender reveal party in California (October is literally the driest month for us in california) and these idiots decided to set off a firework to celebrate. I want my kids to grow up in a world where gender doesn’t matter. You don’t want what’s between your legs to guide your path in life. That’s when I was like, “You know what? Something has to change.” There’s such an obsession with gender that it becomes limiting in many ways and exploitative in others. She said, “Santa Claus brought me a boy toy.” – she thought because they weren’t pink they weren’t for her. On Christmas morning when she was three, she opened up a set of Legos in primary colors and started crying. But my thinking about gender really changed with my second daughter, who’s pretty girly. For her first birthday we put her in a black blazer. But it wasn’t that I wanted to dress her up in tutus. Secretly, when I was pregnant with Bianca, I wanted a girl. I had two more kids after Bianca, but I never had another gender reveal party. The problem is they overemphasize one aspect of a person. Now I think the whole thing is not great at all, though. I put form to it, but it’s not that crazy of an idea. I think the parties probably would have happened anyway. But here’s the thing – when planes crash no one goes after the Wright brothers. When I first saw that a gender-reveal party had caused a forest fire I cried because I felt responsible. I kept thinking maybe someone did one before me but NPR did this whole exhaustive thing and got to the bottom of it. It was maybe a year or so later that I started seeing people I didn’t know having parties kind of copying mine with gender reveal cakes.
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